Updated: Sep 27, 2022
The mindset shift it took to accept that skinny was not healthy, was epic.
I used to measure my success by my abs. If they were visible, I achieved the epitome of health. If I had a smaller waist I felt great.
If all I did was drink diet coke and make it to dinner, I felt accomplished.
I drank "cleansing teas" because of that 2 lbs water weight drop. 😢
In the winter of 2019, during one of the hardest times in my life, my waist was 25 inches. That's the size of my 12-year-old daughter's waist. Check out how skinny I got on my Instagram.
I slept 4-5 hours.
I lived off Bang! Energy Drinks.
I was on Keto.
My hormones were a mess.
I only ate fat🤮
That's not healthy.
At this point in my life, I wasn't mentally, socially, or physically healthy. Hubs and I weren't in a good place, my anxiety was at an all-time high, and I was on Keto. Completely unsustainable lifestyle
It took talk-therapy and self-reflection to refocus my priorities. Discovering my values pushed me forward (and saved my marriage and hormones).
I discovered I wanted to be stronger. Both physically and mentally. I had physique goals, but I also had performance goals. I wanted to show my girls that women could do anything they put their minds to. I wanted to be that woman I always imagined to be.
My best self.
Once I started honing in on performance goals, like running faster, being more powerful, and finally reaching that pull-up goal, the game changed. The next shift occurred when I understood that food= fuel. I couldn't achieve any physical goals if I didn't have the correct fuel. BYEEEE KETO!
Let's face it, we live in a society that values smaller, younger women. Most of us have been on a perpetual diet to fit this narrative. Once we embrace that we need food for energy, to fuel our workouts and for viable nutrients, eating well becomes easier. Eating balanced meals will ensure that we are able to accomplish our performance goals.
Wish I could say my mindset shift was as easy as turning on a switch. It's not easy. These past 3 years have been quite a journey of questioning myself, my processes as a coach and how I feel in my skin. When I find myself feeling like my perspective is moving toward the skinny mindset again, I refocus.
The mindset I strive for is strong, not skinny.
Healthy fat loss not just weight loss.
Embracing this mindset will help you stay consistent, and not disappoint you when the scale inevitably increases.
If living a healthy, happy, and balanced life is your goal, I recommend:
1. Stop focusing on the number on the scale.
The number on the scale doesn't tell you a THING about your health. It's only ONE data point to judge body composition.
2. Eat for nourishment.
Focus on eating whole, nutritious foods. This means listening to your body and giving it what it needs, not what diet culture tells you to do.
3. Move your body.
Exercise should be something that makes you feel good, not something that you have to do in order to lose weight. Find an activity that makes you feel like you did as a kid, remember those summer days?
Come train online with me! I just opened Metamorphosis Online Coaching again, with some spectacular options.